“Most of us hear but we don’t listen. We argue, we defend but we don’t listen. Listening means waiting that extra moment and recognizing that another person may have their own way of doing things and that if we were that person and came from where they came and with the same circumstances, we would probably think just as they do. Understanding this is the true nature of listening. Our job is to not judge another’s actions; our job is to listen beyond the words.”
-Karen Berg
I feel in conflict lately… all of our reactions and thoughts are only projections and justifications, it seems. I´ve spent my whole life running away from any bad feeling. If someone invokes bad feelings in me, I justify avoiding them by saying there is ¨bad energy¨ and we shouldn´t be around bad energy, right?
We seem to judge others if they act in a way we don´t like.. but what do we gain by shutting them out? Isn´t it our own shortcomings that are being aggravated when we judge another? If someone´s personality or ways ¨bother¨us, we justify the way we react by putting the blame on the other person. By closing off, we only shut off a part of ourselves..
I notice sometimes when I hear others complain about someone else´s actions or ways, my automatic response is to brush them off as my mind fills with thoughts: Why do they care what someone else is doing? Quit focusing on the negative. Don´t they know the more they put attention on this, the more energy they waste into being judgemental?
And then I stop and realize I am doing the same. I have a clear awareness that maybe seeing my own flaws in another only exasterbates my own and in that, my own negative feelings within come out of hiding. In my unconsciousness, my mind may confuse this as the other provoking it but in reality, it is only me…
Tagged change, communication, ego, inspire, letting go, life, Peru
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