Everyone has dark black feelings and the more they are suppressed, the further we get from our higher selves… People who act like everything is hunky dory all the damn time – it will catch up to them.. I understand seeing the silver lining on the cloud, glass half full but sometimes life is hell and to have a human connection is to be able to express that and a fellow being to understand. To lend some heart. I see too many times a person bearing a piece of their soul and a person too shielded from their own shortcomings and unconscious hurts they turn away and close the door (like making an abrupt “be positive” comment or of course, a negative one). I suppose compassion can only be learned through experience and that takes time and patience.. and I suppose I am also learning compassion to understand that others take time (not that I am at the finish line or anything).
I believe (romantic) love is really just our Self searching and desire to uncover our unconscious dark parts. Maybe it’s a bit too simple-minded to say but those not “ready” for love aren’t ready to be face to face with that darkness just yet? Love is brave.. not only the falling in love, but once you get to the rough bits.. there is a reason for those. And that person who scrapes those unconscious parts is your partner, the one who will guide you through… if they are ready also.. many are not and that hurts like hell too. (Sometimes the truth is, they might not be ready with you but they will be with somebody else)
I think as a woman we really know these things but we only feel brave enough to express it so and believe it to be right when we have a brave man by our side to help us and conquer it together. It takes two, the ying and yang. I can only observe and write from my own experience but it seems I have and am generously learning through love.