Is someone conforming to our desires and expectations considered true belonging; true love?
And if that other half does give in for a moment, change, “sacrifice” then it must be that he has proven his adoration for the other. But was it true? Will it be forgotten or held tight in the grip of a grudge? What if he chooses not to change? Is he assumed as someone who doesn’t love? Because he chooses to be himself? Then he is perceived as selfish.
The other, at an instant, feels unloved, feelings of betrayal and being ignored — but is this right? True love does not seem to have expectations or any forced actions of doing. It seems to be in forms of letting go, freedom, acceptance; not the opposite such as possession, jealousy and control.
It’s blurry.. and these questions can only be speculations from experience, observation and wonderment; never absolutes, for love is born from neither certainty or safety.
“Love costs all we are
and will ever be.
Yet it is only love
which sets us free.”— Maya Angelou