Resisting self

One of my favorite books that influenced me and moved me toward a dramatic positive shift is a book called “Working on Yourself Doesn’t Work” by Ariel and Shya Kane.

 

I am so grateful they wrote this amazing book (they have other books that I’ve also read that are thoroughly amazing as well). It is about being in the moment and fully being in the present. You can only feel what you are feeling at that very moment. You can only feel one complete emotion at this very point in time. Once you let it complete itself, it will dissolve. Why is it that happiness seems to last a short while whereas sadness, anger or anxiety linger on?

Happiness is so fleeting because we accept it; we embrace it. Sadness stays because we deny it, we hide it, we fight it.Do we ever push away happiness? No. But how often do we push away sadness? The more you push, the more you get stuck.

Anything you resist persists and grows stronger.

With makeup we cover what we don’t like; what we consider flaws. We change what we want perceived by others. Makeup is only temporary. Sure, we can use it to camouflage and cover up but ultimately who we are is who we are left with. For it to be used to pretend we’re someone we’re not or to hide from ourselves only intensifies and builds on those feelings we resist. At the end of the day makeup washes off and you are left with your true, stripped, beautifulsense of self.

What things in your life do you notice you resist? Don’t let those things you resist define you.

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